In the days of old age, when you realize that the main part of the path has been traveled, a person begins to live more memories and emotions. Only then does a person feel truly rich and spiritually enlightened, because the happiness of being needed, loving and loved is the most priceless “currency” in the world.
But in an imperfect world, things often happen differently. At the sunset of life, a person sighs about unrealized opportunities, unspeakable words, unmade desperate, but true deeds. In fact, while you are alive, even if you are 60 years old, it’s not too late to change anything! But still it’s better to think from a young age about what your life path will be, and you’re not afraid to do what is necessary to implement the plans.
Let's see what 10 things cause people to regret in old age.
10. Health Care
Young people always live one day, burning the best time and not caring about things that have not yet affected them. Most of all it concerns health. In adolescence, we don’t even know where we have this or that organ, and with age we begin to feel it in the literal sense of the word. An elderly person can accurately determine which system failed, and even knows effective methods of treatment. At the same time, young animals “kill” the body with alcohol and tobacco, wear out internal systems in unloved hard work, ignore fresh air and exercise, get carried away by junk food, and do not get enough sleep. All the habits of youth are imprinted on the body and make themselves felt in old age, when it is quite difficult to change something.
9. Shopping
People really regret that they spent valuable finances not on emotions and impressions, which were the only ones left with them towards the end of their lives, but on material wealth. Yes, many of them served faithfully, providing comfort and pleasure. Others were absolutely not needed, but bought them, succumbing to the fashion trend, the desire to be like others, the intrusive management of advertising. Often in the buffet services for a large number of people gather dust, and a golden smartphone loses relevance after a few years. An expensive car pleases in the first year after purchase, and then it becomes just a means of transportation. Like branded items, other fashion purchases. Wouldn't it be better to save up and present yourself real live emotions?
8. Forgiveness of insults
Hidden grievances are a vice of every adult. Over the years, injuries accumulate, and the inability to express them makes a person a hostage until old age. But letting go of the problem and forgiving a person could move on, and possibly build new, healthier relationships with him. With forgiveness begins the possibility of a new friendship, partnership or love. We lose many people only because it was important for us to impose our truth, our attitudes and expectations. If a person does not correspond to our ideas, this does not make him worse. You need to be able to forgive and accept others from a young age, so as not to regret the lost good fellow travelers.
7. Advice from loved ones
And here wise people think about two sides: that they did not accept the advice of more knowledgeable ones, and that, on the contrary, they succumbed to the influence of others and did not live their life as they wanted. And if the first option is not so scary - the person went his own way, filled the bumps, stepped on the "rake" and eventually hardened, developed his own "I", nurtured personality. Let him go the hard enough way, when he was shorter. But the adoption of the advice of loved ones, as their own, broke the lives of many children. Growing up, adults realized their parents' dreams, trying to earn love and respect. Further in the family, people continued to fulfill the roles expected of them, sacrificing their own dreams and interests. It is very important, as a young man, to bring to the surface your true personal desires and follow them no matter what.
6. Empty experiences
People also spent a lot of time and vitality on pondering events that never happened. They worried in advance, experienced pain from fictitious failures or crises, considered the most sad outcomes of various situations. All this took valuable energy and time that could be spent on useful activities. In addition, because of empty experiences, people were afraid to take risks and fulfill their dreams. The fear of defeat so fettered that people preferred the comfort zone without realizing themselves. About this in old age you regret almost the most.
5. Travel
The most vivid memories and emotions people often received on travel and welcome trips. From a change of scenery, the soul is renewed, thoughts are filled with positive, new dreams and impressions appear. In pursuit of a career, people often forgot about how big and beautiful our world is. There were finances, and time, and suitable chances to travel, but various self-justifications did not give the opportunity to implement them. In old age, when there is no that money, environment, enthusiasm and, most importantly, health, travel is less and less possible. Living a life without having seen other nations, customs and corners of the planet is just wasted time.
4. Skin Care
Youth is not a given, but a privilege. Over time, it disappears, and the skin most of all gives out our biological age. And if in youth you get addicted to alcohol, smoke, apply a ton of “plaster”, clogging unhappy pores, then already in adulthood the skin will quickly become wilted. It also reflects malfunctions in the endocrine and nervous system, so you should not give in to stress in youth, so as not to suffer from deep wrinkles and flabby epidermis in old age. Begin competent care now, which will always help maintain healthy skin and its youthful appearance.
3. Friends
Many recognize the true value of friendship at an advanced age. In our youth, we lose good friends because of grievances and disputes, and with some we are separated by kilometers or created families. In fact, all of the above is not at all a hindrance to real friendship. People themselves are to blame for finding excuses not to spend more time with soul mates. In order not to be in old age completely alone and not to regret possible good relations, pleasant communication and pastime, it is necessary to preserve friendship in youth and not exchange it for trifles.
2. Hobbies
All our lives we deny ourselves true desires due to insecurity, fear, laziness or inability to allocate time. As a result, possible musicians, politicians, dancers, athletes, ideologists of religions, scientists and other personalities are “dying” inside us. It is a pity that in our youth we do not pay enough attention to our hobbies, we do not try to form from it a “whole life business”. Money can bring your favorite pastime. And yet it does not interfere with career and family, especially if you plan your life properly and surround yourself with adequate people. In order not to regret in old age about abandoned hobbies, start doing something for your pleasure now.
1. Fears
Fear puts us in a dependent position. We can depend on other people, things, events, time, work, illusions and much more. Fear does not allow us to take risks, it fills us with doubts and rationalizations that have nothing to do with the true state of affairs. And the truth is to follow the command of your heart. Talk about feelings without fear of refusal, ask for forgiveness from those who allegedly cannot forgive, go to work, which may not immediately bring money, go on a trip alone, not expecting the appearance of a “suitable company”. Older people regret fear most of all, because they could not follow true dreams.
The main thing to remember is that while you are alive, time and opportunities remain. Yes, even if they are not the same as they were before, there is always a chance to change life. This is proved by the experience of 70-90-year-old people who first travel around the world, go in for sports and even get married. But it’s best to grab the “firebird” by the tail while it flies past, and not look for it in the fields and forests at sunset life.