Everyone is subject to changes in character. It is worth understanding the signs of a bad friend and immediately breaking up with her.
10. Calls at any time of the day demanding to listen to her.
Of course, all of us sometimes need to cry in the vest of a loved one. When emotional upheavals happen in life, a person shares this with friends, because they can find support and sympathy. But the toxic girlfriend does not think about the condition of another. In a selfish impulse to speak out at all costs she can call late at night, and she does not care what you get up early tomorrow. Or such a friend can call while you are sitting at work, and demand that you break away from work and listen to all her problems. However, you also have your own personal life and your own affairs that need to be addressed. If such calls interfere with your life, tell your friend that there is a paid psychotherapist consulting for round-the-clock support.
9. Dramatizes events and speaks only about its failures.
If her nail broke or she broke a plate at home, she will certainly tell you about it in a tragic voice. Moreover, your grief-girlfriend is likely to conclude that she is unhappy, and she is haunted by evil rock in life. Every little thing like wet feet or a burnt dinner puts such a person out of order and makes relatives cry. Moreover, the conversation always takes place in a negative way, your girlfriend is not happy about her successes, but only whines about her imaginary troubles. Do you really want to spoil your mood with her dramatic voice, comfort this person over and over again or in vain to convince that all this is nonsense? It is important for your girlfriend only to cry and it does not matter what you say in response.
8. Cannot rejoice at your successes
Friendship divides everything in half. If you feel bad, a friend should be your support, and if you feel good, he will definitely share the joy with you. When you are promoted at work, you get married or open your own business and inform your friend about it, and in response she is silent or transfers the conversation to another topic, this is an occasion to think. Most likely, this person is jealous of you or he does not care about your successes. This manifestation of unhealthy egoism indicates that you have a bad friend who is not able to sincerely share joys with you. Perhaps secretly she even hopes that in the end you will fail.
7. Exploits you for personal purposes.
Such a friend constantly asks for money in debt or calls if she needs to be taken to work or to the city center. When such a person does not contact you with the purpose of chatting, inviting you somewhere or just finding out how you are doing, but insistently asks for help and this is repeated time after time, this is not a girlfriend, but a real exploiter. Over time, you will understand that your communication has grown into a permanent unilateral provision of services on your part. It is worth remembering that you are not her personal driver or bank teller, issuing money on demand. True friendship does not tolerate exploitation and self-centeredness.
6. Sometimes you feel that you want to hide something from her
If something important happened in your life, and you share it with all your loved ones, but not with this girlfriend, think carefully about the reasons for this behavior. Perhaps you subconsciously understand that if you tell everything to a friend, you will not find the proper response. Or even, on the contrary, she will begin to criticize you in response, rebuke, will not rejoice in response, envy, or gossip with others about it. If you are afraid of such a reaction or simply do not want to tell her about anything, this is a good reason to end your friendship right now.
5. Jealous as if she is your boyfriend
Your life has a family, several friends, and possibly a boyfriend or husband. But a toxic girlfriend will always think that she is more important than anyone. If at the weekend she calls to call you to a cafe, and you already have lunch with your beloved or have left the city with other friends, you will hear offended notes or a question why you are having fun with other people, and not with her. Such a girlfriend is simply not able to understand that it can also be important for you to spend time with family or other friends, because she considers herself the center of the universe.
4. Emphasizes your merits against the background of your shortcomings.
Do you have excess weight, but she has a chiseled figure? You rent an apartment, but she lives in her own? You dance badly, and she is the queen of a disco? If against your background, your girlfriend looks more profitable and seeks to emphasize this and remind you and others of your merits constantly, and at the same time you feel awkward, do not endure such antics. This can greatly reduce your self-esteem. If a friend wants to stand out, humiliating another person, stop communicating with her and often remember your strengths in order to always remain confident.
3. Throws you as soon as a new guy appears in her life
While the toxic girlfriend is alone, she is ready to chat with you for hours and stroll around town on the weekend. But as soon as a young man appears in her life, she immediately forgets about you. Of course, when the girl’s personal life is getting better and she has a boyfriend or husband, her friends recede into the background. We can no longer give friends as much time, because part of it goes into the second half. But if at the same time the girl completely forgets about her friends, does not call them for months and does not reply to messages, this indicates her selfishness and consumer attitude.
2. You feel exhausted after talking with her
People, after communicating with whom a person feels exhausted and morally depressed, are also called energy vampires. Almost imperceptibly, during a conversation they can humiliate a person, deprive him of joy. If there is a girl among your friends who, after talking with you, is not feeling very well, you may have a headache or a mood loss, break off your relationship with her immediately. Friendship should bring joy, not a solid negative.
1. Gives obviously wrong advice
This approach indicates that the person does not wish you well. If a friend intentionally advises to do wrong, provokes bad deeds, she does so out of envy or out of a desire to make you feel bad. Unfortunately, among girls, the spirit of rivalry often leads to envy, gossip, and other negative consequences. You can not give in to such provocations. If a similar envy is wound up among your friends, you should instantly cross it out from your life and ask for further advice from other close people.