Each girl dreams of meeting her only one, but it often happens that years pass, but he is not there. Single women are trying to find the answer to the question: why is this happening? Of course, because no one wants to become an old maid.
Most girls begin to reproach themselves, look for flaws. They think that the reason for being alone is being overweight or having a big nose. The point is not only in external beauty (although it plays not the last role here), but in behavior.
The girl is so used to being alone that she does not notice how, day after day, she is increasingly closing herself off from the world. Moreover, some of them do not even realize the true state of things. They are sure that everything can still change, that the prince is already riding a horse.
Maybe you should not hope for a miracle, but is it better to take care of yourself? If you still haven't met your love, read this article.
You may find some signs that you will soon become an old maid. Then rather change yourself and your attitude to life, you still have a chance to fix everything.
10. Do not accept courtship
This mistake is made by many single women. A nice colleague invites you to a cup of coffee, a neighbor on the site all the time offers his help, and the brother of the girlfriend’s husband also seems to be partial to you. Men invite you on dates, but you do not agree, motivating it with a vague phrase: "I did not hook you."
You will continue in the same vein, as if you will remain an old maid. Love at first sight happens very rarely, but in order to truly love a person, you need to at least talk a little with him.
Perhaps when you get to know the man better, your opinion about him will change. Meet, chat, date, give men a chance. No one forces you to marry after two dates. If you understand that a man is a “hero of not your novel,” you can just interrupt communication.
9. Boring wardrobe
You may not find your wardrobe boring. You have a couple of trendy things that you bought three years ago. You love dark tones, and also hide your hated kilos with hoodies.
Indeed, hardly anybody will pay attention to such a woman. If you want to find your soulmate, you have to work hard. If funds allow, pay for the services of a stylist or just call your friends, take a walk through the shops.
Choose things that you would never wear before. Of course, everything is within reason. Let new clothes emphasize your feminine forms. Buy some bright things, avoid black and gray.
8. Flat shoes
You do not remember the last time you put on high heel shoes. Your motto: "Comfort first!". Do not go to extremes. If you sit in the office all day, you can wear high-heeled shoes at least every day.
If, by occupation, you have to walk or stand a lot, then make a choice in favor of convenience. But you have a weekend. Wear a beautiful dress, heels and go for a walk.
If you are so worried about your legs, it is not necessary to buy high-heeled shoes. There are a lot of beautiful mid-height, steady-heeled shoes. Your gait will change, and most importantly your feelings, you will feel like a woman.
7. Weekend houses
You get so tired at work that you prefer to spend the weekend at home. Soft plaid, hot tea, heartfelt films. The picture is pretty nice, but this is a sure way to loneliness. You probably have friends with whom you have not seen for a long time. Go to a cafe or just take a walk in the park.
If there is no suitable company, this does not mean that you need to lock yourself at home. Visit the exhibition, have a cup of coffee in a coffee shop, go shopping.
Usually girls do not like to visit public places alone. There is nothing wrong. To be honest, there’s a much better chance of getting to know each other. A man is hardly suitable to get acquainted if the woman he likes is surrounded by a crowd of friends.
6. The gloating over the relationships of others
You do not succeed with men, and you are also very happy when friends or acquaintances have difficulties in their relationship.
If a friend or sister complains about your husband (made a mess, offended, cheated), you may not give in, but you will feel relief. You understand that there is nothing to rejoice about, but you cannot restrain yourself.
The sad stories of your friends confirm once again that it’s better not to mess with men. Anyway, nothing good will come of it; it’s better not to try.
Look at the situation from the other side. Even if your friend was left alone, she was happy. The man gave her a few happy years. Perhaps they can fix it, but if not, a new love awaits them. And you will remain alone, will again rejoice at the failures of others.
5. After work - go straight home
You already realized that you are unlikely to find a suitable man at home. But just anyway, after work, rather strive to be in your cozy little apartment or huge cottage, no matter. It is important that at home and one. Do not rush home, the sofa will not run away from you anywhere.
A gym, various courses, trainings, walks in the park, gatherings in a cafe - there are many ways to have a great evening. If you do not find a man, at least learn something new or put your figure in order.
4. Conviction of married friends
You condemn married friends every now and then. One thinks only of her husband, cooks, erases, strokes. Another popped up after a couple of months of dating. It seems to you that they are behaving improperly.
Do not waste your strength. Each person is free to live as he wants. Moreover, in most cases you are envious, just can not admit it to yourself. You would also like to care for your loved one, to please him. Of course, if he suggested you get married, you would answer without hesitation: "Yes."
3. Feel disgust for men
You think that the man in the house is worse than the dog. Yes, she has a lot of wool and dirt, she can ruin the new repair and make a puddle on the white carpet. A man will throw his socks everywhere, drink beer, leave a mess after himself.
In fact, everything is not so sad. No one forces you to look after a man like a child. This is an adult and independent person. He himself can load things into the washing machine, vacuum, clean from the table. Again, if you fall in love with him, soon do not remember that you felt disgust for men.
2. Low self-esteem
Even if you are smart and beautiful, but your self-esteem is underestimated, nothing will work with men. They like self-confident women.
If you still consider yourself unworthy of love, urgently correct the situation. Take care of yourself, love yourself. Take a bath, apply a fragrant cream, put on a beautiful dress, make a hairstyle, apply makeup. Now look in the mirror. Do you like yourself? Probably yes.
If you can’t cope with your own complexes and psychological problems on your own, you can contact a specialist.
1. Do not use makeup
You think that if you are destined to meet the prince, you will meet him. And he will love you, even if you look like a gray mouse. Do not flatter yourself. Do not believe that the beauty of the soul is important to men.
First of all, they look at the figure and face, so make sure that your appearance is pleasing to the eye.
Do not rely on the fact that men love natural beauty. Yes, they love, but between a woman with natural makeup and one who does not use makeup at all, they will choose the first one. Moreover, they will be 100% sure that it is not made up.
With the help of cosmetics, you can hide flaws and emphasize the advantages, you will feel more confident. The result is not long in coming. Not a single man can resist a beautiful and confident woman.