It is difficult to argue that revenge is not the noblest thing. From a Christian, and even simply universal, point of view, it would be much more correct to forgive the offender and hope for his speedy correction.
On the other hand, which of us did not admire the legendary Count of Monte Cristo, who could so skillfully punish each of those who meanly did him. After all, there are times when indignation and resentment overwhelm the soul so much that they become a lump in the throat, which you cannot simply swallow without securing a nervous breakdown.
Therefore, in some situations, it might be better to prefer elegant and intellectual revenge, in return for further peace of mind, than imaginary mercy and gnashing of teeth at night from suppressed rage.
Introducing 10 Ways of Intellectual Revenge.
10. Get the form
It is said that revenge is a dish that needs to be served cold. One should not transgress the punishment of the offender, as they say, "at the last gasp".
It is necessary to recover from the very resentment, to recover, because strong emotions prevent you from concentrating and drawing up a clear plan of action. And in order to abstract from the situation for some time, you can take care of yourself.
First of all, pay attention to your health and appearance: go to a SPA salon, spend a weekend in nature, go to a sanatorium, etc. And then, with renewed vigor, proceed with the implementation of your plan. Remember, because Edmond
It took Dantes more than fifteen years to prepare for revenge, while the effect of her was not “blurred” by a long wait.
9. Overwhelm with kindness
Imagine that some person who has made you disgusting and awaiting a retaliatory strike suddenly receives a gift or good service from you? Do you think this will not discourage him?
It is even possible that such an act will awaken his conscience and he will understand how dishonestly towards you he acted. And if he is like a pea against a wall, then by good deeds you will be able to put to sleep his vigilance.
8. Transparency
Most of us do not like to engage in open conflicts. At the same time, it is common for most people to have hidden aggressive desires. Therefore, such people can disguise themselves, strike passively.
Each of us, in one way or another, has encountered in our life those who spread dirty gossip behind our backs, smiling at the same time and portraying benevolence. How to teach a lesson to such a person? The best way to deal with passive aggression is transparency.
In this case, do not try to play by its rules and pretend that there is no conflict between you. Instead, approach this person and ask him a direct question, as they say head-on. It is advisable that someone else be present. Usually, gossip, coming out of their usual fighting strategy, are very lost and even experience animal fear.
7. Switch attention
Remember, the motto: “I will die, but I will avenge!”, It must be forgotten forever. Do not let the aspiration to teach a scoundrel to seize your consciousness and become the meaning of your existence. Do not do him such an honor!
Otherwise, having carried out the plan, you will be at a loss, because a prolonged anger and an obsessive desire for revenge devastates, and even sometimes leads to a hospital bed.
6. Determine what the adversary wants.
There are more difficult situations. For example, you may fall prey to the so-called “energy vampire.” This person can endlessly provoke a response, thereby leading you to nervous exhaustion.
Accept that there is a category of people who “feed” on the negative energy of scandals. They need squabbles like air - this helps them to feel strong.
Therefore, the worst punishment for them is the restriction of access to "food", that is, if you do not allow them to exhaust yourself with constant quarrels.
Of course, it’s easier said than done, but it’s enough to show the “vampire” once or twice that a similar number will not work with you, and very quickly it will untie you.
5. Rationality
The best way to get revenge is to remain rational under any circumstances. Do not let emotions control your actions, otherwise, having entered into courage, you can derail everything.
4. Create fog
From the moment you decide to take revenge on your offender, be very attentive to all kinds of information about yourself that may be useful to the ill-wisher in his dark affairs against you. Especially if this person is in close proximity (for example, a colleague, neighbor, relative, etc.).
Therefore, you should not post personal information on social networks or share secrets with people you don’t trust 200%.
Do not put into the hands of the offender a weapon with which he can hurt you, it is better to blow the “fog” and create a fleur of mystery. By this you will, firstly, protect yourself, and secondly, make him tremble, because most of all a person is afraid of the unknown and people from whom you do not know what to expect.
3. Grow your network
When you are faced with open aggression against yourself, the primary desire will be to run away from everyone and hide. You may not want to see even close people who can support you in difficult times. However, such tactics are erroneous.
Overcoming fear and basic instincts, it is necessary not to fence off the wall from people, but rather to create a coalition of like-minded people around you. This will help you feel stronger and more confident, and the help of friends in the fight against evil will not be superfluous.
2. Do something for yourself
Remember, revenge should not prevent you from building your own well-being. If this idea takes away too many of your mental strengths that you could use for your own benefit, then it is better to abandon your intention. After all, building is always better than destroying, so do not throw in the furnace of resentment the opportunity to make your life better.
1. More often ask: “Why?”
The motive of your revenge (if you are a highly intelligent being) should go far beyond "because I am offended / by."
In addition to just a sense of injustice in relation to yourself, something else should become the driving force of your actions, otherwise, your revenge will be of some petty character.
For example, you want to punish the slanderer so that no one else becomes a victim of his gossip, or you want to take revenge on the boss so that he understands that his position does not give him the right to treat his subordinates like dirt, thus providing invaluable services to his colleagues.