All parents dream that their child grew up happy, healthy, successful. raise children, relying on our instincts.
We do not have special schools for young parents, except for childbirth training courses. Nevertheless, no one bothers to engage in self-education, read books by famous psychologists and then apply them in life.
Let's talk about the most common mistakes in education.
10. You are developing a child out of age
You need to start practicing with your child in early childhood, because kids, like a sponge, absorb new knowledge. But here it is important not to make mistakes.
If you want to deal with a child, read the books of teachers, psychologists and, based on them, draw up your lesson plan. So, experts do not recommend teaching a child to read up to 3-4 years, because it takes a lot of time and effort.
At this age, the baby’s energy should be spent on the development of other skills, for example, large and fine motor skills.
Children need to be engaged, but not taught to read, but to develop thinking, attention and memory in a playful way.
9. Impose your ambitions on him
In order for the baby to have diverse interests, he needs to try himself in different areas. If he wants to enroll in a circle, do not refuse him. Let him try, study, develop. Do not like it - choose a different direction.
But it is also not worth overloading it. The baby should have free time for games, walks, children should run and jump a lot, fool around and have fun.
Let him choose what interests him. Do not impose his ambitions on him. So, if you have always dreamed of playing the piano, a child is not required to go to music school. Maybe he likes playing football or attending a tennis section. Always listen to the wishes of the child.
8. Give him ready answers
Children are born inquisitive, curious, thirsty to know the world around them. It is important that their enthusiasm does not fade. Constantly talk with him, talk about the world around him. For us, all this is familiar and familiar, and for children to see a crane or a garbage truck is a whole event.
You can not just communicate with children, but consider logical connections. Teach your child to think, often ask him various questions. If you don’t know something, open an encyclopedia or dictionary directly with him and look for answers to questions together.
7. Too early to send the child to school
Now many parents are trying to send their child to school at the age of 6 so that he starts learning faster. But psychologists do not agree with this. Children do not just have to go to school at 7 years old. These figures were not taken from the ceiling.
If a child goes to school at 6 or 6.5 years old, his brain is not yet ready for learning. The child will learn contrary to his nature. Because of this, a first-grader may lose interest in learning, and academic performance will decrease.
And some children start to get sick constantly. Everyone experiences stress when adapting to school, but for six years the hardest thing is to adapt to new conditions.
6. Do you forget about physical activity
Mugs, good performance and grades are good. But remember that your task is to educate a comprehensively harmoniously developed personality. And this means that it is important to devote time not only to mental stress, but also to physical.
Children must be walked, preferably about 3 hours a day. They have to run and jump. After that, they will be able to cope well with mental stress, quickly do their homework.
5. Scolding the child for being unable to concentrate on the task
Psychologists say that it’s difficult for children 7-8 years old to focus on one thing. They can hold attention for about 7 minutes. After that, they need a break.
Do not scold the child if he is constantly distracted when he writes, reads or draws. Do not demand the impossible from him. Only after 9 years can a rule be introduced according to which a child must first do his homework and then play.
4. You too quickly come to the rescue of the child
Remember your childhood and see how it goes with modern children. The difference is huge. If we ran along the streets, already at the age of 7 we were completely independent, but now many mothers are taken to school to the 5th grade by the hand of many children. Children grow up infantile, unfit for life. And this is not very good.
The child gets used to the fact that mom is always there, always support and will deal with all the problems. But it’s important to become independent, grow up and grow smarter, because It will be difficult for “sons of a mother” or spoiled daughters to find their place in life.
3. You overestimate your child’s self-esteem
Praise is a good incentive to move forward. But recently, in the West, and in our country, there has been a tendency to increased self-esteem. Too often we began to praise the child for all his successes and, trying to support him, we render the child a “bear service”.
It's always nice to be praised, especially your mother or father. But the child lives in a society that also evaluates his behavior. Sooner or later, he will understand that his parents praised him just like that, but in fact, he did not commit anything outstanding.
Never flatter your baby, praise if he really deserves it. It is desirable to have an adequate self-esteem, and not understated, especially not overstated.
2. You do not talk about your mistakes of the past
You cannot live his life as a teenager, he must learn from his mistakes, fill his own bumps. Accept this, you need to allow the child to live his life.
But this does not mean that we cannot advise, talk about the mistakes of our past. If you do not get carried away with moralizing, but talk with a teenager about your mistakes, discuss with them the dangers of drugs, smoking and alcohol, he can listen.
It is important to talk about your feelings, to remember what you did when you were in a similar situation, what you were guided by when doing this or that act.
1. You yourself do not do what you teach your children
Caring for the future of our child, we often try to make it better, more successful, happier. But in any family, parents are leaders who lead the younger generation. The child not only listens to their words, but also copies their behavior.
No wonder they say that children are the mirror of their parents. If you inspire some truths to children, try to stick to them yourself.
So, you say that you can’t lie, and you yourself are lying to your relatives and friends. Children will repeat after you. Understand yourself, understand why you need to do this, and not otherwise, and teach this to your children.