Despite the fact that now such values as family and love have faded into the background, nevertheless one cannot but agree that the wedding is a responsible step.
Choosing a spouse or spouse, we must understand that we intend to live with him all his life. It is possible that in the marriage there will be children who can grow up a copy of their father or mother.
How not to make a mistake, how to make sure that you have chosen the right person? Psychologists advise checking your loved one on this list.
10. Think about what you will talk about.
It is advisable that you have a lot in common. Then you will always find something to talk about. If in the first months after meeting you, this is not so important, especially if you are overwhelmed with passion, then after a strong love has passed, you may suddenly find that you have nothing in common.
Painful silence, pauses in conversation should immediately alert you. Is silence a consequence of emotional stress or are you just fine together, even when you are silent? Think about it.
If you are not united by anything other than passion, it is not necessary to refuse to register a relationship. You can simply postpone the wedding for six months or a year to find out if this is the person you need.
9. Watch how he manages the money.
If you register a relationship, your budget will be shared. You can have a good job with a solid income, but spend everything on entertainment, a car, and your other whims.
Or, conversely, your chosen one may be a miser. Counting every penny, afraid to give money to the most necessary, is also difficult.
If you do not want to connect your life with such a person, this does not mean that you are mercantile. A woman, as a future mother, must be confident in the well-being of her children. She needs money to buy diapers and toys for babies, and then everything she needs for school to pay for mugs, i.e. to be able to raise a child normally.
8. Live together with him away from civilization
To get to know the other person well, you need to communicate with him away from other people. Go to places where there is no familiar comfort, for example, rent a house in a distant village, where there is no Internet and mobile communications. Warn your friends and relatives that you will not be there for some time.
Stay alone with nature and with each other. If you feel good together, you don’t get bored, do not get tired of each other, then you have good psychological compatibility.
7. Ask the future spouse about his purpose in life
Each person has some kind of purpose in life. Someone wants to get rich, have a luxurious home and a car. Another dreams of a large and friendly family, of children. Someone wants to become successful, build a career.
If you are planning to register a relationship, make sure that you have the same goals in your life. Combining 5 children and, for example, a luxurious life will be difficult, given the fact how much you have to spend on children's clothing or food.
It is advisable to discuss this issue in advance, so that afterwards there will be no surprises after the wedding, when the wife suddenly wants to have a baby, and her husband will force her to have an abortion.
6. Observe how he behaves in a crisis.
Nobody wants to live with a weak person who can save in a crisis situation. When a person is happy and everything is fine, it is easy to be his friend.
There are different things in life. You can lose your job or get sick, not always everything goes smoothly, as we would like. If the spouse leaves you in a difficult moment, coping with the crisis will not be so simple.
Therefore, take your time, see how the partner behaves if you had to face troubles.
One who is not ready to help and support you in a difficult situation cannot be called a reliable person, all the more to build a serious relationship with him.
5. Live together for a while
Before registering relationships and having children, check if you are compatible.
During a candy season, the partner may seem perfect. But this is how hormones act on us, all this love "chemistry." When the veil falls from your eyes, you may suddenly find that you are getting married or married to the wrong person.
It’s okay to live for a while without a stamp in your passport. If this does not contradict your religious beliefs, do not rush to have children, you can live some time for yourself, check whether you are suitable for each other or not. In addition, during this time you can save money for a luxurious wedding or put it aside for other necessary needs, go on a vacation, because after the advent of children, this will be more difficult.
4. Are you ready not only to receive, but also to give?
Many modern families are crumbling due to the egoism of both partners. Marriage must be built on love. And to love is not to consume, but to give to another what you yourself have.
You can’t get married or get married to fill the void in the soul or look for another source of inspiration.
A person should be self-sufficient and build relationships not in order to receive, but rather in order to share his love and happiness.
3. Do you understand that you will have to work on relationships?
No matter how you love your partner, you need to understand and accept the fact that there are no ideal people. Husband or spouse can sometimes bore, annoy, because he, like everyone, has his weaknesses.
The ability to forgive is very important, especially if you plan to live with this person all your life. The accumulated grievances and misunderstandings will eventually lead to the fact that your marriage will crack. And love is not a broken cup, it is impossible to glue everything and forget it.
2. Are you and your partner ready to become responsible people?
An adult differs from a child in that he is ready to take responsibility. You can stay young at heart, but at the same time understand that each person has his own responsibilities. Other people are counting on him, and he himself must understand that the time of a carefree childhood is left behind.
Family is a big responsibility. This is a mini-state where the role of the president usually goes to the husband. He not only gives orders, but also ensures that his family has everything as it should.
If a person is not ready to shoulder this burden, do not rush into marriage.
1. Think about whether you love each other?
Sometimes we agree to marriage only because it is customary. It's time to get married or get married, it's time to have children, you need to settle down, etc. But all these reasons will not help you build a strong relationship.
A true marriage should always be based on love, mutual respect, and not on passion or love.