The concept of “jam” in recent years has become a real talk of the town, although such women must have been before.
Having come up with a funny definition of their behavior, people began to blame them for almost all troubles, to which “mothers” themselves often react inappropriately.
Not wanting to offend or offend anyone, we have collected the 10 most annoying features of a typical "mother", from which others or even the children themselves suffer.
10. "How is it that you don’t want children?"
Children are, of course, great, but not necessary. Many women prefer to get an education and build a career, and then think about children.
Giving birth at 20 (or even earlier), when you still want to take a walk, and not plunge headlong into everyday life, is not always right.
Yazhemateri think differently: in their opinion, every woman is obliged to want children, even if she is not married, without stable work and in a rented apartment.
9. "And when will you have children?"
A question from which many couples start to twitch their eyes.
The classic “squeeze” does not allow people to solve such issues among themselves and she does not care.
Worst of all, when not a close friend or relative, but a random acquaintance like a neighbor pokes such questions.
8. Contempt for nulliparous
“I did not give birth - not a woman” - this is the same morally obsolete expression as “I did not serve - not a man”.
“Yazhemateri,” for whatever reason known only to them, believe that a nulliparous woman is worse off. Often this is due to banal envy, which exalted mothers can not always admit even to themselves.
Looking at the figure of a childless girlfriend not spoiled by childbirth and at the amount of free time she has, they involuntarily envy, because they have to not get enough sleep and constantly be worried about the baby.
7. Excessive aggression
A difficult to explain fact connected with a serious contradiction. On the one hand, "mothers" say that children are a great happiness, but at the same time they do not always look happy.
One has only to make a comment about the behavior of the child, not to miss in the queue or not to give up a place in public transport, you will immediately hear a lot about yourself. At the same time, some especially aggressive ones are not even shy in expressions, swearing obscenely in the presence of a child.
Strange, but childless girls, who have not yet known the happiness of motherhood, often behave more good-naturedly.
6. Children - the meaning of life
Many people devoted this life to the search for the meaning of life, but they did not find a definite answer. If they asked the “jazy mothers” about the meaning of life, they could save tens of years, as they would immediately say - children!
No arguments can convince them, moreover, any objection will cause an attack of aggression, as was written above.
If, in contrast to children, money is called another common “meaning of life,” then “squeeze” will answer that money is needed only to provide for their children.
Options such as helping others or self-knowledge will be met with misunderstanding and, possibly, another aggression.
5. Addressing the need for inappropriate places
They say that you can do anything if it does not cause inconvenience to others. Observing how to “jam” helps to relieve the need (well, if small) of your child is just such an inconvenience.
The place can be anything: a corner of a bus stop full of people, a flower bush in a public park, etc.
If there is the same “jam” among the spectators of this process, then she will look at it with tenderness and understanding, but this is simply unpleasant for an ordinary person.
It is useless to make comments: at best they will ignore you, and at worst they will send you on foot erotic.
Such mothers, as an argument, bring dogs and poorly mannered men who also walk around small (or large) anywhere. The argument, of course, is weighty, but it’s just that he does not justify the behavior of the “jaeger”.
4. Hyperopeca
This feature of their behavior at first glance should not interfere with others, but in reality everything is different. Excessive custody interferes not only with the children themselves, but also with all the parents they know.
If “jamming” does not allow your child to ride a slide on his own or feeds him literally by force, then she will certainly impose her model of upbringing on her friends.
3. The child is an argument
The opinion that a woman can’t be argued (the notorious female logic) was probably voiced by a man who never discussed with “Yazhemeryu”. She is able to refute any claims with just one argument.
“Shoals” at work, a mess in the house, constant requests to borrow money, bitterness - all this should be perceived with understanding only because she has a child.
Carrying it as a kind of banner, a woman does not even think that it is her child, so strangers may not care about him.
2. Talking only about children
It is for this reason that many “mothers” lose most of their girlfriends after childbirth and begin to quarrel with their husbands.
Cinema, music, sports, needlework, books - everything ceases to exist as soon as the baby appears. Even the fresh gossip that many women love so much seems uninteresting to them.
What is more important, in their opinion, is to discuss the consistency of their child’s stool, share information on discounts on diapers and complain about the high cost of baby food.
They can talk about this at any time without adjusting for the circumstances and sincerely resent when the childless or just adequate acquaintances do not want to maintain a conversation.
1. Permissiveness
Many people infuriate when a small, ill-bred child behaves disgustingly. He can drag a cat by the tail, shrillly screaming all over the street for no reason, rush around the supermarket or offend other children, and his mother will only be moved and do nothing.
His mistake “jam” is aware much later, when a spoiled child turns into the same adult.